Wife swap/ Couple Swap/ Swinger relation in islam

18 Dec 2019 Ref-No#: 2310

As Salamu Alaikum, I have a bit unusual question.

Me & my wife both are pious and we try to perform salat and follow islamic guideline.

This question is regarding our sex life. And we are seeking guidance.

Me & my wife most of the time fantasy about having sex with another couple during our intercourse.

Recently we got in touch with another like minded couple who wants to try the same.

So i have two question:
1) Is it permissible in islam for couple to have sex with another couple under mutual agreement? I mean if all the four person agree? And my wife also want such.
2) Is it permissible in islam for couple to fantasy about having sex with another couple to arouse us?

What’s the view of islam regarding couple swing/ swinger/ couple sex / wife swap?

We want to try it but we are confused in the context of islam.

Please guide us. Thanks in advance. Jazakallah

Answer

Wa’alaykum as Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

Modesty of of utmost importance in Islam. There are numerous narrations where the prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) exhorted us to maintain our morals and guard our chastity. In one narration, the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said,

إِنَّ الْحَيَاءَ وَالإِيمَانَ قُرِنَا جَمِيعًا، فَإِذَا رُفِعَ أَحَدُهُمَا رُفِعَ الآخَر

Modesty and Imaan are together. If one of them is removed, the other is removed. (Adabul Mufrad 1313)

Allah Ta’ala has blessed us with our spouses, so that we can fulfill our desires with shame and dignity. It is through the institution of Nikah that the opposite gender becomes Halal for us. One may not sleep with a strange woman or man, even if it is with the consent of his spouse. Besides the sin which a person gets, there numerous other harms. What happens if after sharing the spouse of another person, you lose interest in your own spouse? If your wife becomes pregnant, how will we know who is the father?

Brother, we advise you and your wife to abandon these immoral and immodest fantasies. Try to get a Shaykh, and increase your Dhikr. Also, start Ta’leem in your house, and guard your thoughts.