Afraid of commiting zina

26 Jun 2018 Ref-No#: 759

Asalam alykum warahmatulahy wabarakatu. I was divorced late last year. I have been communicating with my ex husband from March of this year to date.. ever since then I have started to like him and always suggesting to see him..I told him how I feel but he says he has to think about it plus he’s not ready..now I’m afraid of falling into zina with him as he doesn’t mind..I’m afraid I don’t know what to do.. .I don’t know what he wants from me..

Answer

Wa’alaykum as Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

The solution to your difficulty is simple; if your ex-husband is not willing to marry you, break off all contact with him.

Since the divorce was given last year, we understand that your ‘Iddah has terminated. Hence, It is not permissible for you to be in contact with your ex-husband. He is now a stranger (Ghair Mahram) to you.

You have already expressed your interest to him, and he explicitly told you that he is not ready. Thus, there is no reason to persue this any further.

Break off all contact with him and implore Allah to bless you with someone who will be best for you.

If you fear Allah and break off contact with this man, Allah will bless you with what will be best for your Dunya (worldly life) and Aakhirah (hereafter)

The evidence of this is in the following narration:

مَا تَرَكَ عَبْدٌ شَيْئًا لِلَّهِ لَا يَتْرُكُهُ إِلَّا لَهُ إِلَّا عَوَّضَهُ اللهُ مِنْهُ مَا هُوَ خَيْرٌ لَهُ فِي دِينِهِ وَدُنْيَاهُ (حلية الأولياء (2/ 196)

“Any person abandons anything only for the pleasure of Allah, Allah will replace it with something better than it in his world and the hereafter”. (Hilyatul awliya, 2 /196)

Obey the commandment of Allah, maintain your dignity and honor, and turn to Allah by seeking His assistance and guidance.