Monthly Archives: December 2018

Doubts of impurity on phone

Doubts of impurity on phone

13 Dec 2018 Ref-No#: 1257

Assalam O Alaikum. Please reply to this I really want tot know the answear to this question. I was somewhat certain that I had released Madhi when I kept my cellphone on my lap (offcourse away from where Madhi could be). I saw traces of sweat on my phone. Is my phone impure ? If it is how do I purify it using wet wipes? Please do reply.

Answer

Wa’alaykum as Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

If you are absolutely sure that it was sweat that moistened your phone, then the phone will be regarded as pure. It will not be necessary to even use the wipes.

However, if the phone did become impure, then if the surface which became impure is smooth, it will be permissible to merely purify that portion with wet wipes.

References

والنجاسة إذا أصابت المرآة أو السيف اكتفي بمسحهما (مختصر القدوري – ص: 21)

” والنجاسة إذا أصابت المرآة أو السيف إكتفى بمسحهما ” لأنه لا تتداخله النجاسة وما على ظاهره يزول بالمسح (الهداية في شرح بداية المبتدي ( ج 1 / ص 37)

قال ( والنجاسة إذا أصابت المرآة ) إذا أصابت النجاسة جسما مكتنز الأجزاء صقيلا كالمرآة والسيف والسكين ونحوها ( اكتفي بمسحه ؛ لأنه لا تتداخله النجاسة ) فلا يحتاج إلى الإخراج من الداخل ( وما على ظاهره يزول بالمسح ) ولا فصل في ذلك بين الرطب واليابس والعذرة والبول (العناية شرح الهداية – ج 1 / ص 322)

( قوله لأنه لا تتداخله النجاسة ) يفيد أن قيد صقالتها مراد حتى لو كان به صدأ لا يطهر إلا بالماء بخلاف الصقيل .

قال المصنف في   : صح أن أصحاب رسول الله  صلى الله عليه وسلم كانوا يقتلون الكفار بالسيوف ويمسحونها ويصلون بها ، وعليه يتفرع ما ذكر : لو كان على ظفره نجاسة فمسحها طهرت ، وكذلك الزجاجة والزبدية الخضراء : أعني المدهونة ، والخشب الخراطى والبوريا القصب (فتح القدير – ج 1 / ص 365)

Regarding marriage

Regarding marriage

11 Dec 2018 Ref-No#: 1247

Assalamualaikum Sheikh,
One of my friend wants to marry a boy she knows.But her father is not agreeing may be because of financial status of boys family.But the boy and his family is good. She is very much desperate about this matter. Please let us know if anything she can do so that her father agrees to get married to this boy

Answer

Wa’alaykum as Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu

Marriage is a life-long commitment, and hence it is really important for there to be compatibility in the marriage. If a girl comes from a really wealthy family and she was brought up with luxury and comforts, then it will be hard for her to adapt to the lifestlye of a person who is struggling to make ends meet.

Secondly, parents wish the best for their child. We should trust the wisdom and foresight of our parents.

However, if your friend still feels that the boy is pious, has good character, and she is sure that she will be able to manage the lifestyle of the boys family, she should make Istikharah and continuous Dua. She should also try to explain to her parents her feelings. If the boy is good for her, Allah will inspire her father to agree.

Ref-No#: 1091

Ref-No#: 1091

11 Dec 2018 Ref-No#: 1242

During menses, I naturally wouldn’t get up at Fajr time.

1. So can I just check my discharge for hayd before zuhr, asr, maghrib and isha?

2. And for istihadah, can I check my discharge before or after prayer sets in?

3. What if I’ve already checked my discharge, but then awhile after I need to relieve myself (and the next prayer time is a long time away) – during relieving myself, do I need to check my discharge again? I’m asking because I noticed sometimes when I relieve from my backside, the pressure from it can release discharge. I don’t necessarily always feel this releasing. I’m afraid I have to constantly check in fear that I might wash/wipe it away from cleaning myself. And also, I might end up seeing moisture which looks like water, but I wouldn’t be able to tell if its clear discharge or discoloured because its so thin and also it could even just be water from istinja. I just don’t want to be dealing with doubts and confusions and I don’t want to be thinking about things so much.

Can I strictly only check hayd before prayer time begins (excluding when I physically feel a strong release of discharge), and not any other time even during relieving myself?

And can I be as strict when checking istihadah?

JazakAllahu khairan

Answer

Wa’alaykum as Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

1) We would suggest checking your discharge when you wake up, around 30 minutes before Dhuhr ends, and half way in the Maghrib time. Otherwise, choose three suitable times over a 24  period which are convenient for you.

2) Check once the prayer time has set in.

3) After you’ve checked, do not worry or check again.

O son of Adam, I desire something and you desire something

O son of Adam, I desire something and you desire something

11 Dec 2018 Ref-No#: 1240

السلام علیکم ورحمة الله وبركاته

Mufti Sahab,

Is this Hadeeth qudsi?

“Ya Ibn Adam, Ana Ureed Wa Anta Tureed Wa La Yakoonu Illa Ma Ureed. Fain Sallamtanee Feema Ureed Kafaytuka Fee Ma Tureed. Fillam Tusaalimni Feema Ureed, At’abtuka Fee Ma Tureed Wa La Yakoonu Illa Ma Ureed.”

“O Son of Adam! I desire something and you desire something but only what I desire occurs. If you submit yourself to my desire i.e. obey Him, I will be sufficient for you in your desire. If you do not submit yourself to me (by disobeying Him), I will tire you in what you desire and (at the end of the day) only what I wish happens and occurs.”

Answer

Wa’alaykum as Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

We have been unable to locate this statement with a reliable Sanad (chain of transmission) to the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam). Yes, Imam Ghazali (may allah be pleased with him) has quoted it with a ‘Seegha Tamreedh’ (words denoting upon weakness) in Ihyaa ‘Ulum ad-Deen, 4/346. This is not suitable proof, since no Sanad or grading on the narration has been given.

The responsibility of proving it to be a authentic Hadith Qudsi will be upon the one who attributes it to the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam)

Is wearing the colour gold haram

Is wearing the colour gold haram

10 Dec 2018 Ref-No#: 1234

Is wearing the colour gold, and yellow, and fake gold haram ————— Sahih Muslim Book 024, Hadith Number 5176. – ‘Ali b. Abu Talib reported that Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) forbade wearing of silk and yellow clothes, and the gold ring, and the reciting of the Qur’an in the ruku’ (state of kneeling in prayer).———— And the hadith, “Gold and silk have been made lawful for the women of my Ummah and prohibited for men” (Sunan Tirmizi & Sunan Nasa’i)

Answer

Wa’alaykum as Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

These narrations are with regards to original gold. It is Makruh Tanzihi (slightly abominable) to wear bright colours, like yellow, golden colour etc.

marriage

marriage

07 Dec 2018 Ref-No#: 1225

As salam alaykom,

Please I need FATWA…

It’s a very delicate and intimate situation. I met one muslim boy at work, married since 5,5 years, with one baby 2 years old… He has not had sex with her for more than 2 years, he does not feel attracted to her at all, she often gives his mother as a negative example, she does not respect him or his parents, she argue very often, she does not pray, she is not satisfied with his efforts, she is not thankful to Allah for everything she has, she talks ugly and raises the tone to him, she sleeps all day, months passed without to clean or make food, she does not support him, she does not help him, she is searching to fight for nothing, she is angry for very small things, she does not make herself beautiful and sexy for him, she does not care about it to be nice to him, always with a very ugly and frowning face at him, she is not loving at all with him… He tried all the possible options, his family tried to talk with her, he also tried to talk to her, but only a very few things changed … I know about all these details from him because we talked a lot on the internet and we came to tell many secrets and personal things, just as friends at the beginning … I pushed him to get closer to Allah, I pushed him to pray constantly, I pushed him to go to salat al jummah every week, I push him to translate Quran for me and to explain islam for me….I do not want to mean she is a bad woman because she does not pray, does not respect him and his parents, does not care about him, does not fulfill his wishes and needs, and the list is very long but maybe she is not the right one for him and he was not at all satisfied with his marriage for a very long time, no longer felt the need to touch her, he could no longer love her, he could not have any dear to her, but he did not rush to think about divorce because of the child he loves enormously and his afraid of harming him by separation from his wife. Due to many shortcomings and lack of things from his wife, he fell in love with me without even realizing it… He is religious person and very good man, but he is human and I think is normal to need to be loved to wish to have intimate intercourse and he was missing these things since long time, he thought he forgot what these feelings mean… After he fell in love with me, he began to think more seriously about the divorce, but he did not want to divorce if only I’m the main reason. He can no longer think of touching her, having a future with her, loving her sincerely, and the only reason he would be married to her is the child. He wants to marry me, but he fears God and is afraid of mistaking / neglect/ abandon/ not to do everything he can for his child because of the divorce. He thinks is better to stay married to her and to sacrifice his life for the sake of the child, with nothing else more with her, as a wife.
I want to know if Islam it connects you to a person all his life, even if you do not love her, even if you can not touch her, you do not want her as a wife/ life partner, you do not understand with her, even if she pushes you to sin( to commit zina) … just for the sake of a child to grow in the same house with both parents at the same time.
I want to know if in islam you are allowed to have two wives but not to love the first one, not to have sex with the first, to keep the first one as a wife only for a child who has remained the only connection between him and her.
For me, it is more logical and normal for him to divorce his wife if she does not bind him anything but a child and seek someone to help him get closer to Allah, to help him get to Jannah, to take care of him, to support him and to give him everything a husband needs to receive from his wife.
I am allowed to marry him as a second wife if I know for certain that I will be very jealous, I will be dissatisfied with the situation, I will seek arguing very often because of this reason, I will have very big problems with my family and… I know I have not yet reached the level of faith to accept polygamy in peace and harmony and to be able to fulfill my role as a good, faithful and obedient wife in this situation?
We stay away from each other and try not to exceed the limit and try to find a solution for us to can be together in the halal marriage, to can build a righteous family, to get closer to God together and bring us closer to janah. I wish one day to can pray near by him, to listening Quran from him but I’m not able to can find one way for us and I need your help and I please you to help us and to don’t judge us because we have come in this situation…

Thank you very much and may Allah swt bless all of you!

Answer

Wa’alaykum as Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

You need to understand that your relationship and discussions with this man was not permissible. It is no coincidence that he fell in love with you. Although it might seem as if you were directing him to the religion, the devil has various ways of leading mankind astray. At times he makes a person feel as if he is doing good, whereas that action is prohibited in Islam. Until you do get married to him, you need to break off all contact with him.

Before answering your questions, we would give some general advises, which could apply in this situation, or might not apply. But its best that you think over these points.

Generally speaking, when a man seeks to entice another woman, he exaggerates and magnifies the faults of his wife. It could be that the man is mentioning the child as an excuse, and the wife is not as bad as he informed you. You should investigate this further before considering the marriage.

Many times a spouse will act in certain ways based on he/she is treated. If all that he told you is really true, it could be that the wife is reacting in those ways because of how he deals with her. If you are interested in the marrying him, you need to make more research on how he will be as a husband. You need to be sure that after a few years, he will not go and unveil your faults to another strange woman, and fall for her.

In short, we suggest that you analyse this issue abit more, and see if you will manage to spend your whole life with this man. Dont base your decision just on how he interacts with you. Generally a person will always act as a good person infront of someone he intends to win over.

If all that he stated to you is true and he really is not happy in his marriage, then not only will it be permissible for him to come out of that marriage, it will actually be the best thing to do. When there is no compatibility in a marriage, that very same child will suffer. The child, for whose sake he intends to hold onto the marriage, will undergo more harm in the marriage than if he has to divorce her.  Islam does not bind you to a person that you do not love and cannot even bear. If she is as bad as he states, and he is not happy at all and cannot find any solution, then he should divorce his wife. However, the best way of doing this will be as mentioned in the following verses  of the noble Quran:

“As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.”

“If you fear a breach between them twain (the man and his wife), appoint (two) arbitrators, one from his family and the other from her’s; if they both wish for peace, Allah will cause their reconciliation. Indeed Allah is Ever All-Knower, Well-Acquainted with all things.” (Verses 34 and 35 of Surah an-Nisaa)

It is normal for a woman to feel jelous towards a co-wife. If you think it will create the problems that you mentioned, then you have the right of refusing to be his second wife. You may propose to him if he annuls the marriage of his first wife.

We pray that Allah blesses you for a spouse who will be best for you.

Telling a lie which do not cause any harm to anyone is this type of lie a sin in islam

Telling a lie which do not cause any harm to anyone is this type of lie a sin in islam

06 Dec 2018 Ref-No#: 1216

Assalamualaikum Sir,

In Islam telling lies is forbidden. My aunt always speaks the truth. But she speak lie which do not harm anyone. She speak lie regarding on one matter to protect her Status in society and relatives.

Is this type of lie a sin?

Please reply.

Answer

Wa’alaykum as Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

All types of lies have been strongly prohibited in Shariah. There is no distinction between lies which harms others and lies which do not apperently harm anyone. All are impermissible and sinful.

As Muslims, we should endeavour to be truthful and honest. Once a person gets a reputation of lying, even in seemingly trivial issues which does not cause harm, he looses his trust and people could disbelieve him in more important issues, when he might be speaking the truth.

In your aunts present case, she should discuss her case with a pious scholar, who will advise her how to word her explanation in this particular issue to protect her status without speaking a lie.

Doubts concerning ingredients

Doubts concerning ingredients

06 Dec 2018 Ref-No#: 1224

Asalamualaikum

I get so many doubts about the ingredients of food and drink.

If I want to buy it or it has already been bought, then I immediately check the ingredients. However, a lot of these foods and drinks have so much ingredients, that it stresses me out.

I’ve had to avoid food that had already been purchased because I was doubtful.

At this rate, I feel like I won’t be eating or drinking much, due to my worries.

In the past, all I really did was check if the product was suitable for vegetarians. However, now I also have to check alcohol content, but because so many ingredients are foreign to me, I’m afraid they could be alcohol, so I google.

Then I still cannot rest because I have to google/email the company to see if cross contamination takes place.

This has brought me immense stress.

Answer

Wa’alaykum as Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

Based on all the previous questions that you sent, it seems that you do get alot of Waswasa (wisperings of the devil). In your specific case, we will advise that you follow the  ‘Urf (social practises) of the religious people of your community. Hence, if any product is not obviously Haram and from the ingredients which you are aware  of, there is nothing prohibited in Islam, and you see other religious people eating that product, then you should not unnecessarily  worry about alcohol or cross contamination. There is no reason to have doubts if everything seems fine and Muslims are consuming that product.

Adoption of a male boy aged 2.5 years who is a orphan

Adoption of a male boy aged 2.5 years who is a orphan

06 Dec 2018 Ref-No#: 1217

Assalamualaikum Sir,

Actually my brother don’t have kids. Hence he adopted a boy aged 2.5 years who is a orphan and also belong to Non Muslim family. My brother named him a Muslim name.

My doubt is should he do Aqeeqah ( that is sacrificing two goats) for this boy?

Please reply.

Answer

Wa’alaykum as Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

It is indeed a noble act to bring up an orphan. Another great thing is that your brother has the oppurtunity  of bringing up this innocent child as a Muslim.

It is Mustahab (meritorious) to still do the Aqiqah of the child. Thus, if your brother has the means, it will be good for him to carry out the Aqiqah. And if he does not have the means at this stage, he may do the Aqiqah later.