I recently received a marriage proposal. When I saw the picture of the boy, I realised that he is my previous boss where I used to work. I remembered that two of my colleagues once told me that he drinks alcohol and they were very sure about it. I never asked them how they knew and I didn’t ask more to avoid gheebah. When the proposal came, I told my mother that I am not sure but this is what I was told about the person and I have no idea if its true or not but this is what I was told. Was I right in doing so to tell my mother or have I done Gheebah or Buhtan? I am confused, pls help!
Wa’alaykum as Salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,
Yes, it was absolutely necessary for you to point this out to your mom. This would not constitute Ghiba (backbiting)
اعلم ان الغيبة تباح لغرض صحيح شرعي, ولا يمكن الوصول اليه الا بها…. و هو..الاستغاثة علي تغيير المنكر و رد
العاصي الي الصواب, فيقول لمن يرجو قدرته علي ازالة المنكر: فلان يعمل كذا فان لم يقصد ذالك كان حراما. (الدرر المباحة في الحظر و الا باحة باب التاسع و الخمسون , باب الغيبة)